I went NO CONTACT. HUH? This person is definately the latter. I go through stages of is this him or can I deal with this. Almost 3 years of silent treatment tactics, withholding affection, refusing to talk about anything, my feelings are invalid, never considered. I think you can find some solace and guidance on my site: Holistic Divorce Counseling. she cooks and does every thing for him all she gets is a kiss goodnite and kiss good by . I am on the healing mend and taking care of me and learning about warning signs and doing all I can to prepare for the BIG CONTACT, this time I plan to give no response and hold my head up high.. He thought this would change my mind, well I still feel the same, “Done” It’s gonna be the exact opposite of what you want to do at first, because i myself am in the same boat. It’s like getting your head decapitated, then kicked around on the field, then the player just leaves off your head like that on the field. I’m not a quitter and I just kept thinking he would wake up and smell the coffee but it just got worse. Around the same time – he professed he was in love with me & he had never said it this soon to ANYONE. my life is a mirror to yours : ( my kids are being hurt by their dad who is “in love” with a new victim and I have to be there for them because they are being discarded like I was after 20 years. But who cares! Everything is fabricated, literally every single fact they told you from day one is not true. Normal people do not just dispose of people or stop talking to them. It was as if she seriously did not think that others were capable of having thoughts and feelings at all! Today not so good. You’ll get a 14-day series of emails with emotional support and encouragement and a list of 16 empowering beliefs to live by. I lived with a person with this disorder and I had no idea until the end how dangerous these people can be emotionally. NOT HAVING IT! (The backstory here is COVID . Honestly though, his lies to get me to come over and sleep with him were beyond me. Understanding the dynamics of abuse empowers survivors to lessen any cognitive dissonance remaining as a result of gaslighting and other emotional abuse. How can you be so loving and caring and then completely block me from your world like I’m nothing . Year after year, week after week, I watched and witnessed as she paraded around with her new set of friends: the popular girls in church. I am speechless. I want us to get married. He would spin off into a rage and I really started to worry about myself, and the person I was becoming. Bit by bit you will become isolated from all your supports; your family, friends and colleagues. He seemed VERY into me and very intense about his feelings. He totally degraded me to dirt after 15 years because i asked a question about our future, seemed harmless but not to a total liar ,faker total rage and then the degrading silent treatment, im still here due to $$$ but am plotting my escape!!!! This happened after I attempted to question why his online dating profile said “active within 1 hour.” I was trying to establish boundaries, but apparently you can’t do that with a narcissist. Initially I questioned his intentions because I saw some red flags. He is extremely reactive and sensitive to criticism and frustration. Eventually – he seemed quiet. I started to wonder if I maybe did say these things. After a week of this BS, I finally sent him one final message blasting him for the way he treated me and then I changed my cell number so he couldn’t contact me. I am not proud of this but at the time I was in a very bad space. Hardly anyone believed me, thought it was just break up drama. That was when I found out that I was probably in a relationship with one. I have learned a lot from him. The cycle continues. I’m doing it all. Later that day I thought I hit the lottery, because she called me! The first year of dating I started researching how this could not be normal. He would tell me he needs me all the time, that he loves me and misses me, but the little things didn’t really happen, like going out in public and doing things. he is not able to give his 27 year old sex . After I walked out on her, she became very cold and refused to converse. I questioned it deep down but never questioned him. She said she can’t. I loved the man I married, although clearly the seeds were sown at that point, and I am NOT what I would consider to be a codependent, but I stuck it out because I refused to believe that he would throw everything away and I could not imagine how he could discard our early life so easily. So few believe the intensity of his goal of revenge…they dismiss me as paranoid or a broken hearted ex.. My month 3 – it was done. Thank you x. She was the perfect girlfriend – while I was around. We’ve done that a couple of times. watch for the mask to slip. i think he was planning his get away from the beginning and because he never uttered the word “boyfriend” he can turn around now and say “look he’s crazy- i never was with him!” if thats the case whyd he feel the need to formerly break up with me? At this time- I was his soulmate. If you try this normal affectionate style of humour with a Narc they become defensive, mine accused me taking the p” and got angry when I wasn’t. Turns out, he has been seeing my boss AND me for the last six months! It’s insufferable to them that they might have to consider it for more than a few moments. That’s normal for nonpsychos. I read close to 50 articles and hundreds of personal accounts from victims. The divorce was brutal but I have never been more grateful or less stressed than after she was gone. If I could of shit for him he would have me do that too never said I love you hug me got so he would go months no sex ,I was a Good woman . Thank you Nicole. I questioned his intentions a couple of times because he was a total stranger I met online and felt like I had to be cautious. I was kind of stunned, but I figured I would still see her at church. narcs are judgemental when they attempt humour it’s only sarcasm or lame puns. It saved mine. I get the deer in the headlights look and no apologies. I learn each time he is lieing to me to the fact he keeps repeating the behaviors that are unhealthy. Any help or insight that I can get will be very helpful. My experience with the mental health profession has been that they do not quite fully grasp just how much a survivor’s identity is warped when they are abused by a pathological narcissist to understand that sizeable percentage of survivors actually believe THEY themselves are the narcissist. After treating me as the best thing since sliced bread during our courtship, like he couldn’t believe his luck, he switched completely once we were married. Lol, my husband is 54 yrs old and he is impotent also. They keep on coming back why? . I also discovered that she was borrowing huge amounts of money from people that she wouldn’t have to pay back (her 92 year old grandmother, for example). The more fearful you become, the more they will rule by fear, it is as if their power is an aphrodisiac to them. He mentioned to a close friend he thought I was acting weird since my conversation with him and assumed I still had feelings, huh? He loved me and he obviously wasn’t using me – for sex anyway. I’m saying all this because we’re blessed because they’re evil people who don’t have a heart and no self-love; so no matter who they target next to won’t last. Listen to how others speak of your new friend, especially those who are in more intimate contact with them. I think that’s collateral damage. nothing / something /everything I didn’t do. 4 months of absolute insanity. This is oh so familiar , I thought I was wise and the man around town , confident , loyal , generous , loving – this girl even got close to my daughter but never my friends she tried turning me against them all saying they wasn’t real mates ( 25 year soul mates , We had an explosive year I thought she was my soul mate she pushed ne to get engaged talked about kids names !! She is very self destructive, as well as this disorder that she has she also has Obsessive Compulsive Disorders and addictions smoking, alcohol, eating disorder, overspending, gambling, having multiple love affairs with different men simultaneously in every relationship that she has had all behind all of her ex – boyfriends backs, vandalizing and putting graffiti onto her ex – boyfriend’s car. I doubt she will ever change tbh. Anyways, I ended up having passionate sex with him and he was just like no its over. Eventaully left marks on my neck. I said F this and said a couple more hurtful things. So my Knight and shinning prince charming, left and currently is drinking threes more, living in pretty awful conditions, I have begged him to come home and you know what.. Those were the only things I needed to know. Great explanation!!! Void of any positive emotions or feelings. i was the old supply the olded ego giver. And that was that and she was gone. Of course, she is hurt because her fake image broke on the surface, but underneath she is hurt from her feelings of worthlessness. Now, there has been physical abuse in an attempt to get me to stop. How A Narcissist Deals With A Break-up: The 6 Stages and After Effects Narcissists are truly toxic and evil beings who leave no stone unturned when it comes to hurting the ones who love them. I believe the lesson has been learned & class is adjourned. I am totally exhausted and honestly cannot remember which number disgard I am on .. It was cruel, I said to my ex “you are incomplete, the human parts of you are missing.”. We belonged to the same church, our fathers were in business together, and our families were close. Crazy crazy stuff. This leaves my husband and I very confused and discouraged when it comes to making decisions. I’m showing my ex-coworkers the proof of his cheating so they will know who he really is. I did and let me tell ya it was amazing. I met a man on Match several months ago and we began a relationship — things got seriously very quickly because he pushed to be exclusive from the start. He used me to stay here with the kids. I do regret what I said, but then she went into hyper mean. Posts have made me see im not alone nor am I crazy thank you. Nope, not biting. Recovering from narcissistic abuse is … Now keep in mind, I’m 51 myself so this isn’t my first rodeo, but I still learned a painful lesson. He came on very strongly and pursued a relationship with me very quickly. He didn’t even TRY to apologize for all the issues I called him out on. Did she know what it was like to be ditched, discarded, and betrayed? The past couple of days have seen a significant drop off. I watched him rage, I was very frightened and remember thinking ‘how did I get here’ and ‘who is here’ I was frozen and hyper vigilant. I will go to your website. our Terms of Service which can be found here. her drauther is 27 . I was married for 30 years then I met him! Please know it will get better!!! People with narcissistic tendencies are drawn to such empathic, deeply feeling people and know that, on some level, they personally are lacking in emotional depth and substance. Divorce proceedings were set up between me and my husband but then the divorce proceedings were stopped and cancelled because my husband and I both knew that we were still madly, deeply and truly in love with each other, we still cared so very much about each other, we missed each other terribly, we couldn’t stop thinking about each other, we couldn’t and we didn’t want to live without each other, we were making the biggest mistakes of our lives in divorcing each other, and if we had of divorced each other we would regret it every day for the rest of our lives and we wouldn’t be able to live with ourselves because of it and we both didn’t sign or date any divorce papers either. But as HS mentioned, I have issues of my own. We were almost inseparable. Our daughters are now 21 and 24. Are you still married to him? Set up boundaries, and walls and surround yourself with accountability partners. 6. What a fool I was at the time (no fault of my own, this is NOT normal behavior!). I have given my whole heart and soul to this man, it feels like a huge loss of something that never truly existed. He also tried to push on me things that I did not want to do but I held my boundaries there. Hi there Jen. She brought her whole group of crazies (including her kids…) to the house to try to demand that I move out. To my surprise, within minutes she responded. But the long-term prognosis for narcissists is gloomy. I cried and lived in confusion, when I asked what I did he put up walls and just left me. I fought it pretty hard but was tired of fighting and crying. Time is running out. Do not isolate yourself, have a support group, constantly check and guard your heart so you don’t fall into a trap of romanticizing a fairy tale type of relationship with this broken person. He told me that declining would offend her and he had to comply. And it continued to escalate, multiple contacts per day texts, emails, phone calls, (some five or more hours). I completely freak out when he does this so I start emailing him and sending hi. She never did. (Which I already told her that I would, lol. The clique. I guess I saved myself from a lot of heartache down the road. My brother saw this and was appauled by his bltent disrespect. Once you are hooked, the honeymoon period does not last long with a narcissist, and they are likely to detach from you as quickly as they attached, moving on to their next hot pursuit. I have to say I feel lucky to have gotten out so quickly. If I didn’t want to marry him, “Fine, I’m just gonna go kill myself right now if you don’t want to get married!” And, “Tell me there’s a hope we’re going to get married or I can’t take it and I’m going to kill myself right now!” Obviously these empty suicide threats were just manipulation to keep me around. I was shocked!!! Plus, you get complimentary seating to the masterclass, 7 Proven Steps to Break the Narcissistic Spell. I see an empty shell when I look at him now. After just reading the single most positively stated, and in turn most empowering paragraph in the reams of literature ever read on this subject having been victimised most damagingly myself I want to thank you for the last paragraph of the above paper: Nothing is real for you. I genuinely thought he just had an awful memory, but quickly caught on he only claimed not to remember things that would hold him accountable, or make him own to things he didn’t want to own up to! Its not me they are socially, physically, emotionaly inept !!! I also discovered that no one really knew who she was. By commenting you acknowledge acceptance of GoodTherapy.org's Terms and Conditions of Use. What you do to others will ALWAYS come back to you. If you are an adult entering into a new relationship, the clues that your charmer is a narcissist is generally there from the start. It e never validated me I was a good a wife and and he wanted me to do everything . I don’t doubt the sex was amazing and the infatuation stage was otherwordly…however, he wasn’t able to take it to the next level of maturity and depth. I dontbeven know what happened…and I lived through it. He is a Pathological Liar/MN/Sociopath. Everything was “always” my fault though. It’s like she tried to keep everyone apart to tell her insane little lies to them. were only taught that way.. to get what they want! His birthday is Wednesday and I still had a gift for him. She did all of those behaviors. Anyway, by this time we officially started sleeping together. That true intimacy and depth of emotion is not experienced by a person with extreme narcissism. I may fall for another and be swept off my feet, and why not? I responded and asked that she delete me from her phone. If you don’t want to do that then lay down & for because those are your choices. I was in shock…I’m still in shock at times. If they show superiority over others, speaking down to those people they perceive as inferior, then let me warn you, that once they have you in the palm of their hand, you can expect the same treatment. I was idealized and devalued by a covert narcissist but she wouldn’t discard me because she wanted to keep taking advantage of me and keep doing favors for her to make her life more convenient, like give her a ride when her back hurts, etc. He just stared at me without blinking. She didn’t seem enthusiastic at all in speaking to me. I was told by my therapist that I may be in a relationship with a woman with narcissistic personality disorder in 2014. The entire situation was very hurtful and damaging. My suffering in this never ending pattern for the rest of my life will kill my self-worth. i have been pucking him . She is a dangerous person. I will be filing for divorce. I wish more of the general public were aware of narsassists and the damage they cause, even to their own children. Very painful lesson! She knew you wanted to love and be loved and accommodated that to control you. Watch out for any gaslighting behaviour toward others, how they behave toward “their betters”, so they suck up to them and model their ways, or do they discredit them. Like, why. This man has shown a vulnerable side to me three times. I’m guessing this is the classic narcissistic “front” described above. Never limits, boundaries, accountability OR… consequences, so…… ) Not saying that is THE reason or the only reason, just comparing because it’s how they see things.. how to get what they want & that’s ALL that matters. I need to move on with my life and I don’t want to lie awake at night wondering if he is plotting my demise. The funny thing is that only her enablers believed her, and half her family sided with me! I would have to beg her to let it go, apologize for things that I didn’t do, and then she would relax and we would go back to being happy. That was a lie too. He only wanted sex with me while he was dressed in women’s underwear. GET OUT while you can. My advice is RUN! I feel like I need to take them away from him. It’s all a game, a bag of tricks, and I am so exhausted. They want you to beg for the closure and it validates in their minds that what they did was justified. I told him I am done with him and he gave me some money. I was baffled at how quickly he flipped this switch. He was well aware of this view when he initially groomed me. A. I really feel for all the people here who crossed paths and entered into a relationship with these defective human beings. I felt safe knowing he’s in a fake relationship. The next 4 months were a nightmare. I need to get off this ride please!!! I was in tears because I love her so much, but she said that she warned me never to say mean things to her, and I did, so it’s over. And asked him what was going on. Your personality begins to change; the interests and activities you once pursued are cast aside in order for you to focus on your narcissist’s needs and wants. Setting healthy boundaries and enforcing consequences when they are crossed is crucial to recovery for a People Pleaser or victimized person who has been pervasively attacked, abused, neglected emotionally, or scapegoated. Im jut on 3rd day,it still is blowing my mind like something out of a movie.Very very crazy and scary and hurtful to thing that 7 years maybe all just a lie. It was all about him. I left my narcissistic finance a little over a year ago. I figured the whole time he was cheating with someone else and he obviously was. I’m just so sorry to hear all these other stories of heartbreak because the narcissist doesn’t care how we feel, they just move on to their next victim. But I better understand my vulnerabilities and I am mindful of them. Just like that – he never contacted me again. This explanation is certainly going to help me get over it, as I can see that they will never be happy, all they will do is continue to hurt other people, it really is very sad. I told her I wasn’t interested in that and she said ok. She also told me that I was going to fall in love with her. I understand they live in constant turmoil and fear. We come into this world alone & in the end we leave this world alone. Would love your thoughts, please comment. FDA approval is still years away , and I imagine that the community of psychotherapists doing this treatment currently is completely underground. I love you. i told her to check his phone he lives a double life with his phone . And then suddenly I was cast aside but the ruthlessness of this discard principle – was just as devastating to me as my injury yet she had no feeling in any shape or form – it was brutal to see her without even a thought. First, narcissists guarantee success by targeting codependents: the narcissist takes advantage of the codependent’s shortcomings. That was my first clue as to her crazy, and it was only the tip of the iceberg. That’s something most people who haven’t been target themselves don’t comprehend. Because, there was probably a million minor offenses and red flags that you just let slide instead of telling this person to eff off or at least distance yourself from them. The narcissistic cycle consists of the narcissist “over-valuing” his partner, unfailingly followed by a period of “de-valuing” his partner. My guess is yes. These beloved quotes had millions of views and include articles to read, share and savor. When i had a gut feeling he was lying to me, and I would ask him about it, he would be like “i have already told you, why do you bring it up again? Narcissists often see people, even those whom they profess to love, as interchangeable. He took it from us to hinder our self discovery, and to always be remembered when we got nostalgic for our personal treasures. God revealed this man to me. The Lord keeps me in peace. I clearly saw the tree phases in action…. He would often make excuses to leave extra early in the morning and have been told by countless ppl he’s been cheating but he swears he was loyal and ppl are trying to break us apart. I in my gut felt the wrong that was happening, but could never put my finger on it as a whole. . We miss the affection when it’s jerked away. thanks for that. Yes, my “devil” moved on to his next victim within days of breaking off from me. I tried everything I could think of to get her to change her mind. My guy was the same way. And I would get together with no kids involved and spend like 4 or 5 hours together and sleep with each other every time. worst thing is the ex bird and ex wife are suddenly best mates and planning to Destroy me hahah!!!! It makes me so sad reading how many decent loving, giving people are hurt , used and messed up by these parasites!! This is the time the God is by my side helping me to see the opportunity, this is my window I’ve been given the love I need from God to leave when he goes silent robbing me from love just like the devil. HE gives this false sense of ” I am babe” we get along for an average of 3 weeks then he blames me for “my cycle” and here we go ” I PRONOUNCE YOU BLOCKED AND DELETED” OKAY GREAT.. recently I was diagnosed with a serious condition and he was more concern that he was the last to find out, yell at me and once again ( i believe this most recent discard of me was number 55 or 56) yet it is my cycle, I am the issue, everyone loves him, and I am the bad one.. I have just passed trough by this a relationship with a narcisist person and I could not understand until now how a person can put you from heaven to hell in few weeks! But seared in my soul are the memories of a dead, empty stare. Fortunately I only endured 18months of exposure to this toxic person. he claims depression is why he would be silent and not go out with me or do anything to help me. They have been described as the proverbial Jekyll and Hyde, one way one minute, another the … Whatever caused the change to the narcissist’s behaviour, you can be sure it will be your fault, because your narcissist never ever takes responsibility for their behaviour. I never had said my son was coming to live with me. @Ian — so glad this article continues to be so inspiring for many, years after it was written. You just described my life to a T! Again though, she was so damn hot and the sex was amazing, so I took it. There was no remorse. And learn to live with it and grow from it! They will want to commit incredibly fast, whether it is romantically, or some other way, like a partnership of one sort or another. Wrap any ties up you have together & severe them ALL. I am searching online for ways to handle this, and what I can expect… I am scared for our lives. Understanding the dynamics of abuse empowers survivors to lessen any cognitive dissonance remaining as a result of gaslighting and other emotional abuse. when i was done with him. That’s not this self absorbed, self involved, self centered, SELFISH, ABUSIVE man. I remember one time being at camp and trying to speak to her, and she rolled her eyes at me. i can’t stop thinking of all the things that are so blatant now that i know what was happening. Because narcissistic people rarely mature emotionally like a kid aged 6, listening to their conversation can be traumatizing. I love your outlook and will take this with me.. What gives with these jerks and how come they can get away with it? Well fast forward I went to visit him and he was very distant. He was gone a lot with work, which I also said was for the good of us…Ugh, I would not do that. people with this disorder are the worst! I will defend and protect myself, no matter what. But I didn’t bite. In middle school we also attended the same school together. I felt like my group of friends would get silent when I brought his name up. Karma will take care of you. He would say things like “it isnt gonna work out with my gf. A great group is Narcissist Freei on Facebook. It’s completely a dead end with me now because I switched off compassion. Once you catch a few of their lies, you start to notice the myriad of lies that they told or probably told. She just made up a story about how I threw them out at 2am. I love him! After a week of this, I sent him one final text and blasted him for his treatment and overall BS. You are filled with hope and a renewed optimism for the future, and you cling on with all of your might. One day I told him: you said in the beginning that you LOVED sex but you deny sex because of small issues. He seemed to REALLY want to be in a relationship and made me feel very special (love bombing I think). My wounds are healed. Email me if you want to compare notes. One day you are the greatest person on earth to them, but when you don’t do or say … The day started perfectly, we woke up together, we had sex twice that morning, but then I had to leave to go and work. so i finally reached out to the guy in question and sure enough the narc was starting someothing or began talking to him as we were togther- i can only assume the new bf went ballistic because i recieved an email that had such rage behind it- the narc admitted to not having been molested- claimed i was ugly and only stayed with me because they were afraid had they dumped me i woulda commieted suicide (the funny part is IM NOT EVEN SUICIDAL NOR DO I SUFFER FROM ANY DEPRESSION OR ANYTHING! 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